Secrets to raising a happy soccer family

I grew up as a biracial child to a single mom without the best backstory. But she was {& still is} an awesome mom – she never missed one of my games. EVERYONE knew who she was – her loud, passionate voice and confident walk could not be missed. Many people thought I missed out by it being only the two of us but I learned a lot from my mom and ANY family can learn some of these same secrets to raising a happy soccer family.

Communication is key in raising a happy soccer family. Sometimes the two of us would shout our communication {what can I say? We’re both a little headstrong!} but we each got the point. Here are a few of my takeaways:

1. Have a common goal: As a kid you are your parents’ everything. They invest time, money, and love {plus energy, sweat, stress…} in their common interest – YOU. So kids talk about your goals and parents talk about your goals – find common themes for the family. For example:

Kid + Soccer = 2 common goals that could result in a spoiled disaster.

However, if you recognize the sacrifice each makes for these goals and set additional ones {such as grade and work ethic expectations} then your both happier with the outcomes achieved.

2. Share one another’s commitments. For example, the nutrition needs of an athlete and a parent aren’t as different as you think. Support one another in reaching for the healthy alternatives for snacking. Our society is too burdened with obesity and stress. Exercise together and use that time for enjoying the visit.

3. Speak the same ‘language’ – VERY IMPORTANT. The number one language you should speak is RESPECT. This should be followed closely by routines of engaging {I almost made that #4}. Before I got married I was encouraged to read the book ‘The 5 Love Languages.’ The book was so awesome that my wife and I have used the techniques with our children as well. I recommend the book as an easy read {great for me} and that you use the techniques in talking about games, practices, giving feedback, etc. For example, you might find that your child needs ‘high 5’s’ and hugs while your personal style is to debrief after the game.

No matter what your family structure is like, stay positive with one another and stay plugged in to what each other needs and is thinking. You’ll be amazed at how much your family {& soccer} productivity will improve.