How to Talk to a High School Coach

As a parent of a high school athlete, there may be times when you disagree with some decisions, practices or rules enforced by your child's coach. Responsible communication with the coach not only sets a good example for your child and other parents, but helps resolve issues in the most effective and mature way possible.

Instructions

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      Make an appointment to phone the coach. Ask for the best time for you to call him for a conference. Be upfront about the problem, but do so in a respectful manner. Always wait to approach the coach until you are away from the team and other parents, but never while out and about in the community (like the grocery store or at church).

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      Go directly to the coach. Ask your child questions in order to be informed, but don't drag them into the problem any further than necessary. Kids are often embarrassed by their parents talking to their coach, so use good judgment in pushing the issue.

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      Notify the coach of any conflicts with plenty of advance notice. Waiting until the last minute creates stress that can easily be avoided by being upfront.

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      Allow your child to handle himself as much as possible. Being part of a team and communicating with the team leader is a valuable learning experience that you should encourage. Don't be quick to rush in and take care of things for your kid if you think it's something he can do on his own.

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      Know what is appropriate and what is not. Appropriate subjects include the mental and physical treatment of your child, your child's behavior, insight into understanding your child and ways to help him succeed. Inappropriate subjects include strategy, playing time, other teammates and referee calls.

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      Take it to the next level if your concerns persist and you do not feel the coach is able or willing to fix the problem. The school principal and/or Athletic Director should be contacted as the next step.